Endnotes

Introduction

1.     www.slate.com/blogs/the-slatest/2016/10/07/donald_trump_2005_tape_i_ grab_women_by_the_pussy.html

2.     https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/docs/usts/USTS-Executive-Summary-Dec17.pdf

Who am I to talk?

3.     www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6sxzOpHQrY

4.     www.nytimes.com/2013/01/08/opinion/after-being-raped-i-was-wounded-my-honor-wasnt.html

Shut up or die, crazy bitch

5.     "Be warned."

6.     Dept of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics, National Crime Victimization Survey, 2010-14 (2015)

7.     http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1077801210387749

8.     Slepian, M. L., J. S. Chun, and M. F. Mason (2017). The experience of secrecy. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 113(1), 1-33.; http://psycnet.apa.org/record/2017-20428-001

9.     Beard, Mary, Women & Power: A Manifesto, Profile Books, London, 2017

10.   www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-41594672

11.  http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/8650112.stm

12.  www.panzifoundation.org/panzi-hospital

13.  www.theguardian.com/world/2016/aug/03/kavumu-village-39-young-girls-raped-justice-drc

14.  www.alternet.org/human-rights/how-one-american-journalist-took-down-militiamen-who-raped-50-young-girls

Totally different, exactly the same

15.  www.dissentmagazine.org/article/breaking-cage-india-feminism-sexual-violence-      public-space

16.  www.scribd.com/document/121920147/Justice-J-S-Verma-committee-report-on-sexual-assault

17.  www.bbc.com/news/magazine-38796457

18.  www.amnestyusa.org/issues/death-penalty/death-penalty-facts

19.  www.livemint.com/Leisure/NvPjEMDihrmOiL7XAj16MP/Why-the-Delhi-sentence-is-too-much-and-too-little.html

20.  www.washingtonpost.com/local/social-issues/calls-to-rape-crisis-centers-are-surging-amid-the-outpouring-of-sexual-assault-allegations/2017/11/22

1.21.https://people.com/archive/no-town-without-pity-a-divided-new-bedford-seeks-justice-in-a-brutal-gang-rape-case-vol-21-no-10

22.  www.justice.gov/ovw/tribal-affairs

23.  www.stuff.co.nz/national/21913/Abuse-of-Maori-women-shocking

24.  www.aihw.gov.au/reports/domestic-violence/family-domestic-sexual-violence-in- australia-2018/contents/summary

25.  www.ncdsv.org/images/SexAssaultandPeoplewithDisabilities.pdf

26.  www.nytimes.com/2018/02/04/opinion/metoo-law-legalsystem.html?mtrref=www.google.com&assetType=opinion

Yes, no, maybe

27.  www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8

28.  www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-41699245

29.  Seager, Joni, The Penguin Atlas of Women in the World, 4th ed., Penguin Books, UK, 2009. pp.58-9

30.  www.aljazeera.com/indepth/opinion/2017/08/middle-east-roll-repeal-marry-rapist-laws-170822095605552.html

31.  www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-41594672

32.  www.buzzfeed.com/katiejmbaker/meet-the-expert-witness-who-says-sex-in-a-blackout-isnt?

33.  www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/interrogation/2017/09/in_search_of_a_new_standard_for_sexual_ consent_on_campus.html

34.  www.vox.com/first-person/2018/1/19/16907246/sexual-consent-educator-aziz-ansari

35.   www.bustle.com/p/who-is-madhumita-pandey-the-research-student-interviewed-over-100-convicted-rapists-in-india-heres-what-she-learned-2335827

36.  www.vox.com/first-person/2018/1/19/16907246/sexual-consent-educator-aziz-ansari

37.  www.nytimes.com/2017/08/05/us/usc-rape-case-dropped-video-evidence.html

What did you expect?

38.  www.alternet.org/news-amp-politics/montana-lawyer-argues-13-year-old-rape-victim-blame-being-temptress

39.  Strong Island, directed by Yance Ford, Yanceville Films, 2017. 1 hour, 13 minutes, 2 seconds into the film

40.  http://mashable.com/2017/09/21/its-on-us-consent-logic-video

41.  www.hrw.org/news/2013/07/03/egypt-epidemic-sexual-violence

Oh, please

42.  www.detroitnews.com/story/tech/2018/01/18/msu-president-told-nassar-complaint-2014/1042071001
www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/olympic-committee-was-told-2015-suspected-abuse-nassar-n843786

43.  www.mlive.com/news/index.ssf/2018/01/nassar_victim_describes_tellin.html

44.  www.detroitnews.com/story/news/local/michigan/2017/11/22/larry-nassar-sexual-assault-charges/107934168

45.  www.worldcrunch.com/opinion-analysis/full-translation-of-french-anti-metoo-manifesto-signed-by-catherine-deneuve

46.  www.nytimes.com/2018/01/12/opinion/catherine-deneuve-french-feminists.html

47.  www.odoxa.fr/sondage/plus-dune-femme-deux-france-a-deja-ete-victime-de-harcelement-dagression-sexuelle/

48.  www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/compost/wp/2018/01/13/ladies-lets-be-reasonable-about-metoo-or-nothing-will-ever-be-sexy-again

How to save a life

49.  www.timeslive.co.za/news/south-africa/2017-10-10-lion-mama-walks-free-after-fatal-stabbing

50.  www.deccanchronicle.com/nation/crime/230917/chandigarhhc-suspends-sentences-of-3-convicts-accuses-girls-promiscuous-attitude.html

51.  www.cnn.com/2017/07/27/asia/pakistan-revenge-rape/index.html

52.  www.nytimes.com/2012/05/10/nyregion/ultra-orthodox-jews-shun-their-own-for-reporting-child-sexual-abuse.html

53.  https://forward.com/news/308681/25-years-later-manny-waks-is-on-a-quest-to-confront-his-abuser/?attribution=tag-article-listing-1-headline

54.  www.nytimes.com/2012/05/10/nyregion/ultra-orthodox-jews-shun-their-own-for-reporting-child-sexual-abuse.html

The official version

55.  www.rainn.org/statistics/criminal-justice-system

56.  http://news.trust.org/item/20180206171511-j0mac

57.  UNDP Editorial Style Guide, 2014

Your love is killing me

58.  https://babe.net/2018/01/13/aziz-ansari-28355

59.  www.jaclynfriedman.com/unscrewed

60.  www.vox.com/first-person/2018/1/19/16907246/sexual-consent-educator-aziz-ansari

A brief pause for horror

61.  www.nytimes.com/2017/07/27/world/middleeast/isis-yazidi-women-rape-iraq-mosul-slavery.html

A bagful of dentures

62.  www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/index.shtml

63.  www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/trauma/other/sexual_assault_against_females.asp

64.  http://zaksdental.com.au

65.  www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2018/02/06/jamaica-tufts-dentists-provide-care-for-rural-communities/vbWDFGnODYOUBI9glyZ5wO/story.html

66.  www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3096184/#i1524-5012-10-1-38-Little1

67.  http://nautil.us/blog/when-cancer-treatment-re_traumatizes-survivors-of-sexual-trauma

Teflon Man

68.  www.propublica.org/article/false-rape-accusations-an-unbelievable-story

69.  http://dynamic.uoregon.edu/jjf/articles/freyd97r.pdf

70.  www.rollingstone.com/music/news/taylor-swift-talks-groping-trial-sexual-assault-w513445

71.  https://harpers.org/archive/2018/01/cant-touch-this

 Keys to the kingdom

72.  www.nytimes.com/2016/10/08/us/donald-trump-tape-transcript.html

73.  http://abcnews.go.com/International/silvio-berlusconi-wiretaps-prime-minister-spare-time/story?id=14546921

74.  www.pulse.ng/bi/lifestyle/the-15-beautiful-wives-that-king-mswati-iii-has-married-id7546888.html

75.  www.slate.com/blogs/the_slatest/2016/10/07/donald_trump_2005_tape_i_grab_women_by_the_ pussy.html

76.  http://riceinstitute.org/blog/what-fraction-of-sexual-violence-in-india-is-within-marriages-media-coverage-of-research-by-aashish-gupta

77.  www.thehindu.com/news/national/criminalising-marital-rape-will-destabilise-marriage-govt-tells-hc/article19581512.ece

78.  www.rappler.com/nation/politics/elections/2016/129784-viral-video-duterte-joke-australian-woman-rape

79.  https://zimbabwe-today.com/grace-mugabe-women-who-wear-mini-skirts-deserve-to-be-raped-southafrica-zimbabwe-nigeria-robertmugabe

80.  http://aids-freeworld.org/Publications-Multimedia/Reports/Electing-to-Rape.aspx?view=web_report

Rx-polite conversation

81.  www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/apr/26/protect-children-talk-rape-desmond-tutu

82.  Enloe, Cynthia, The Big Push: Exposing and Challenging the Persistence of Patriarchy, Myriad Editions, Oxford, 2017. p.49

83.  www.reddit.com/r/MuseumOfReddit/comments/1t1r2z/the_ask_a_rapist_thread

84.  http://answer.rutgers.edu/blog/2015/06/12/sex-education-must-work-to-dismantle-rape-culture

Stealing freedom, stealing joy

85.  www.mosac.net/page/285

86.  https://medium.com/skin-stories/when-secrets-turn-into-stories-living-with-ptsd-as-a-young-queer-woman-146f49f2a4a5

87.  https://storage.googleapis.com/vera-web-assets/downloads/Publications/overlooked-women-and-jails-report/legacy_downloads/overlooked-women-and-jails-report-updated.pdf

A brief pause for ennui

88.  Haupt, Lyanda Lynn, Mozart's Starling, Little, Brown and Company, New York, 2017

The quality of mercy

89.  Elva, Thordis and Tom Stranger, South of Forgiveness, Scribe Publications, Victoria, Australia, 2017; and Skyhorse Publishing, New York, 2017

90.  www.ted.com/talks/thordis_elva_tom_stranger_our_story_of_rape_and_reconciliation

91.  www.cnn.com/2018/02/05/us/larry-nassar-sentence-eaton/index.html

Your rape is worse than mine

92.  De Guissmé, Laura, and Laurent Licata (2017). "Competition over collective victimhood recognition: When perceived lack of recognition for past victimization is associated with negative attitudes towards another victimized group." European Journal of Social Psychology, 47: 148-166. https://doi:10.1002/ejsp.2244

93.   www.inanna.ca/catalog/im-girl-who-was-raped

94.  www.theweek.in/content/archival/news/india/dont-criminialise-marital-rape-violence-not-just-forcible-sexual-penetration-flavia-agnes.html

Good girls don't

95.       www.vice.com/en_us/article/evvm7e/grandmothers-in-nairobi-are-fighting-off-rapists-with-self-defense-techniques-v24n7

96.       www.nytimes.com/2018/01/20/style/confronting-sexual-harassment-dominatrix-training.html

97.       www.aidsdatahub.org/sites/default/files/documents/new/Rights-Evidence-Report-2015-final.pdf

98.       www.livemint.com/Leisure/pf20TksLBZSZ3jtFR70LSP/Sex-work-and-violence.html

99.       www.melissaditmore.com

100.    www.sangram.org/resources/RAIDED-E-Book.pdf

Boys will...

101.    Fiske, Alan Page, and Tage Shakti Rai, Virtuous Violence: Hurting and Killing to Create, Sustain, End, and Honor Social Relationships, Cambridge University Press, Cambridge, 2014

102.    www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/11/27/the-root-of-all-cruelty

103.    www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/nij/grants/221153.pdf

104.    www.theguardian.com/us-news/2016/jun/06/stanford-sexual-assault-case-victim-impact-statement-in-full

105.    www.alternet.org/world/mob-violence-india-will-have-legal-repercussions-once

The full catastrophe

106.      www.yasminelrifae.com

107.      www.aljazeera.com/indepth/features/2016/10/dark-trade-rape-videos-sale-india-161023124250022.html